So why did I struggle so much? Well, after many many years of low self esteem and self hatred, I learned I had the power within myself to CHOOSE to look at things differently and once I challenged my thinking, I could then change my behaviors and ultimately my results.
Look, life is NOT EASY.. for any of us. But if you don't have your MIND IN THE GAME, screw it! Don't even start because you will play every game in the world in your own head and will chase your tail in circles. If you want something different, you gotta BE DIFFERENT.. then you gotta DO DIFFERENT!! I know you hear this over and over again but SERIOUSLY, GET REAL WITH YOURSELF. It all starts with getting HONEST! What the HECK are you putting in your mouth. When I sit down with people as ask them a series of question on what they are doing to lose weight, inedibly they go into what kind of exercise they are doing. Let me tell you a little story.....
Many years ago, my former husband and I had decided to take our health seriously to the point we marched ourselves down to the local gym and hired a personal trainer. We did our sessions together in efforts of saving money, even though at the time we couldn't afford her and had to finance the contract. She was buff and did body building competitions and so I remember thinking, 'this is it. She is going to get me the body that I have wanted my entire life.' So we scheduled her twice a week for a half an hour each and she pushed us. She took our measurements, which by the way, I wish I had now, and put us on a routine. We showed up for our appointments and did our work. We ended up working with her for 2 1/2 years and towards the end of our time with her after having built us some really strong muscles, I hadn't lost a pound. Yeah, that's right, twice a week for 2 1/2 years and NOTHING! I know what you are thinking, what a waste but what my personal trainer didn't spend much time on at all was my nutrition. See I have worked with trainers, even trained 4 months and ran a full MARATHON (26.2 miles for those of you who don't know... that's a LONG ways) in efforts of losing my weight and didn't lose anything. Eventually, my trainer asked me at the end of one of our sessions, "what are you eating?" Seriously, I began to cry, right there in the men's section of the gym and walked away. My husband came after me in efforts to comfort me but my only response was, "don't ask me what I am eating!" Now that I look back on that experience, it was incredibly telling of how much I protected my FOOD and how I wasn't about to let anyone into that world of isolation I was keeping myself in. You know they say, "What you eat in PRIVATE, shows in public but REALLY, I thought I was hiding that part of my life!
Most people who struggle with their weight, are screaming for HELP behind the FAT. The problem is until you decide to ASK for the help, there is absolutely NOTHING any of us can do for you. Not a husband, a friend, a doctor or a family member. Weight is such a touchy subject and so it has to come from you!
I used food as a DRUG. It was my only friend who didn't reject me, didn't tell me what I can do or not do or think or not think. Food was the friend who comforted me in times of despair, stress and just about every other unimaginable emotion. See I wasn't taught how to deal with emotions and since I was 7 years old, I had turned to food to push the emotions further and further down which in reality as I got bigger and bigger my world got smaller and smaller.
I remember my former husband encouraging me to go spend time with friends I used to once do everything with. I didn't want to. I didn't want them to see me like this. I felt sooo much SHAME around looking the way I did and I guess was trying to control how they remembered me by staying away. I stopped doing those things that made me happy. I filled my life with distractions, reasons to isolate. Became a work-aholic, a TV watcher til late at night and of course went on late night SNACK runs after my husband had gone to bed. I did the finances so I could hide the amount of money I was spending and boy was I spending it too. I interview people all the time and ask them to detail how much money they are INVESTING or spending on unhealthy eating and I have YET had someone tell me the NAKED TRUTH. They all want to hide and in their mind, they truly think they are hiding but I KNOW DIFFERENT. I am sorry folks, but it costs MASSIVE AMOUNTS of money to get FAT and stay FAT! So when people say they don't have money to work with me, yeah in their minds they think it's extra money but they aren't getting honest with themselves with what they are spending to care to change it. I can tell the ones who are ready by their level of commitment to put some SKIN IN THE GAME.
If there is any disservice I have done for people is to buy into their STORIES that have kept them STUCK for so many years. When they say they don't have money, I believed them, made excuses for them and sometimes even cried with them. Let's get real though, if you want something bad enough you gotta work for it.
To be continued....
Becky Sampson: Becky Sampson has dedicated her life in helping people overcome their personal battles with weight loss. She provides a unique approach in that she herself lost 130 pounds and has kept it off for over 3 years. Becky understands the physical, emotional, and physiological sides that people need to overcome in order to release their own beauty within. She is known to say, “No matter what the challenge is that you face in life, there is always a way to overcome it if you can get your head in the game.” Learn more about Becky at www.CreatingHealthyLiving.com